Reinvention Coach Sarah Leather gives us some great advice on how to reinvent our January goals in order to make them achievable.
I adore January and have always been a fan of setting goals and resolutions. But there’s been resistance by many in recent years as the frustration of not achieving goals usually fizzles out in just a few weeks. Sometimes it’s only days or even hours before the motivation wanes and old habits slip back it. We make these decisions at a time of heightened motivation but we can’t rely on motivation, as it’s not sustainable long term.
I feel we need to reinvent the way we do our January goals to move away from relying on being constantly motivated. Here are some suggestions to get off to a cracking start in January and have an amazing 2017:
• Instead of deciding what you are going to ‘do’ in 2017, decide who you’re going to ‘be’. Just changing our behaviours and habits may not be enough to have the life you want. You need to move towards the kind of person you want to be. This helps you to get the long lasting change needed. There’s a big difference between starting a new diet and becoming a slim healthy person or starting a business and becoming a business owner. Focus on what kind of person you want to be rather than what you have to do to get there, that comes later.
• If I had a magic wand (and I do!) and you could be, do or have anything you wanted this year, what would you wish for? Write out a list of everything that would be on your ‘be, do and have’ list. Then take a highlighter pan and highlight your top three. These are your goals for 2017.
• Looking at your three goals, what needs to happen for them to become a reality? Create a list of takes and consistent behaviours that will have to occur to get what you want. Schedule these tasks into your diary and highlight milestones along the way.
• Give yourself rewards along the way when you reach certain milestones. Many of my clients are creating their own dream business so they can leave their 9-5 job, so I get them to reward themselves with some time off the laptop doing something they love.
• Know that there will more than likely be setbacks along the way. Getting your goals isn’t so much about avoiding roadblocks but about managing them when they occur and not letting them stop you. This is where resilience is built and you become stronger (physically or emotionally) and keep going no matter what. You will absolutely succeed as long as you keep going. Also know that your success can bother some people who try to sabotage your success. Many of my clients have well-meaning friends and relations who don’t support their attempts to create a profitable business or will bake their favourite cake when they have a new health goal. This is where you need to strengthen your resilience muscle the most and not let anyone else stop you from living your life. Your dreams are important and you need to keep going.
• Get support and accountability. We are not meant to succeed in isolation. Get help from a buddy, friend, coach or anyone else who has your back. Find out what works for you and ask for the help you need.
• Know that you can do this. Every day you wake up with the opportunity to reinvent yourself in some way. Some things in life you can’t control (like politics and other peoples behaviour) but you are completely in control of how you think and what you create in your life. It can take some courage but you can do it. You matter.
Get yourself a new notebook and start writing out your own goals reinvention plan for this year. Start with taking one tiny action in the direction of the new reinvented you and be very proud of yourself.
Sarah Leather is a Reinvention Coach at SarahLeather.ie and runs the ‘Reinvent Yourself’ Workshop in-person and virtually to help people to discover what they want to do when they grow up and release their inner entrepreneur. The next workshop is on Saturday, January 21 in Cork. Email her at email@example.com or phone 087 2332023 for details.