Coaching makes your fertility journey easier

Posted on: 10th February, 2014

Category: Health & Lifestyle

Contributor: West Cork People

One in  six couples in Ireland struggle to conceive a child naturally and find themselves in the position of having to decide whether or not to undergo fertility treatment. Fertility and Relationship Coach Joan O’Connell says there is no typical ‘infertility candidate’ and although age can be a factor, particularly for women, fertility issues can affect both male and female regardless of age.

Up to as many as one in five couples can be affected by unexplained infertility. If you are currently undergoing fertility treatment or trying to make the decision whether or not to have fertility treatment then you know all about the disappointment, doubts, fears, frustration, anger and emotional rollercoaster that goes hand in hand with finding yourself in that position. It’s not just the variety of fertility treatments that are available, (that in itself is a huge area) but also the worry of what effect the treatment will have on you and your partner. Then there is the cost and how will you manage to afford it, wondering if it will work, how long will it take, what is really involved and how will you get through it and survive from an emotional, physical and relationship standpoint.

Infertility is very much a hidden issue, not spoken openly about and suffered very much in silence by many couples and individuals who find themselves in the situation. These couples really need support and help to get them through the process and at the same time maintain some joy and normality in their lives and their relationship as they go through their journey.

Many couples feel they cannot share the fact that they are having fertility treatment with their friends and family. This is a very personal journey and very often couples experience deep feelings of isolation and loneliness, a sense of shame and disappointment not living up to what they themselves and society expect, not wanting to disappoint parents expecting to become grandparents, a sense of failure at not being able to have a baby like all their friends and so on.

My step by step Fertility Coaching Programme focuses on five key areas where individuals and couples undergoing fertility treatment come under pressure in their relationships. In my Coaching Programme I focus on areas such as;

Right Decision — is fertility treatment the right option for you and your partner?; Managing Emotions, identifying what triggers particular emotions and how to deal with and prevent/protect yourself from those triggers; Identity, how to maintain a sense of your own identity which can be really difficult as fertility treatment can become all consuming; Coaching through the fertility treatment focusing on developing and maintaining a sense of future regardless of outcomes; Handling the results increasing emotional stability and the wherewithal to handle the outcome of treatment.

Along with all of this, working with me provides you with a safe, secure environment where you can talk openly and honestly without judgement and in complete confidence.

As someone who spent over six years living and dealing with infertility, I am very aware of the stress and pressure felt by individuals and couples in this situation. As an experienced coach, I can provide you with tools, strategies and supports that will make the journey easier and ensure that whatever the outcome, your will manage your experience more successfully and may even look back on it as a time of self-discovery and personal enlightment.

If you are coping with fertility issues, please feel free to contact me by phone or email to set up an appointment. All my clients are dealt with in the strictness confidence.


Joan O Connell

Qualified Coach Fertility & Relationship Coach

Tel 087 1126201


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