By Sarah Leather
“My life is too busy”, “I have no idea what I should be doing at this stage of my life” or ‘Why does everything seem so complicated?’ are some of the comments people make when they come for coaching.
And it does seem to be much easier to live a complicated life rather than a simple one. Many women say they crave simplicity. But simplicity is neither easy to achieve or easy to define.
When I talk of simplicity many assume it is just about decluttering our material possessions. And de-cluttering is extremely important on every level (your head, your heart and your home) but more a state of mind or a path to follow for both our internal and external life.
As Leonardo DaVinci said ‘Simplicity is the Ultimate Sophistication’.
Our lives are pulled in so many directions. Modern life can be complicated and when we overstuff it with our multi-tasking and ‘to-do’ lists often leading us to overeat over drink or disconnect from our world just to try to calm ourselves down.
So why do we struggle with allowing simplicity in our lives instead of the busyness, striving, pushing and overwhelm? The answer lies in believing we are enough just as we are. It really can be that simple.
Here are some tips to bring more simplicity to your life:
1) De-clutter your head. Do a brain dump of everything you are carrying around, all of the tasks you plan to do, all of the events from the past you often think about, the things in the future that you are worrying about and all of the things you think you ‘should’ do. Then cross out all of the things you know you will never actually do. Schedule everything else that you desire to do. Will the things that are left from your past, let them go.
2) Look inside your handbag and purse. How much is essential? Does your purse close and is it ordered? What can you file or throw away?
3) Do a time audit on your week. What can go? Do you really have to do everything you do? Who else can do some of the tasks that you don’t enjoy?
4) When you feel overwhelm slipping in, just bring yourself back to now. Stay in this very moment and breathe. If you are driving, just drive. Turn off the radio, feel your hands on the steering wheel and feel the sensation of sitting. Just be exactly where you are and bring your mind back whenever it starts moving into the future or back to the past.
5) Take five minutes a day to just sit and do nothing. Put the timer on and sit on the couch near a window and just sit and observe. Do it every day, it just might change your life.
Simplicity is the topic of my TEDx Clonakilty talk on October 25 and also the topic of this month’s ‘Flourish’ meetings. For information on coaching or to attend a ‘Flourish’ meeting contact Sarah on 0872332023.